That been hanging in the air lately.. And now I have this feeling, just like everything else is steadily changing in terms of “words”…
In the following six months or more I decided to spend 40 days on each of the 7 rules by Alexander Palienko. Gradually turn them into the habit.
Now it’s still Rule number one – be honest with yourself – that I’m practicing with. That means admitting what you’re feeling at the moment, honestly monitoring your own condition on a regular basis, your attitude towards people, different events, yourself. I thought that I’ve gotten pretty good at this, but I’m still getting better – I actually remember about this more often and I manage to reflect on certain events more often. That’s a plus :).
But I always remember that after the first rule, later, I should also master the other 6 following rules:
1. “Positive words” – the ability to use positive words.
“In order to rewrite the script of the events that happen to us, we need to replace the negative neural connections with positive ones. And we can do that with words. For example, instead of saying “bad” we say “not good”; instead of saying “terrible” we say “not great at all”; instead of “difficult” we say “not simple”. This way we activate the positive neuron chain, because our brains don’t understand the prefix “not”. At the same time, everything that’s associated with the word “good” causes high-frequency vibrations that neutralize the negative that we are currently feeling. All you have to do is change your vocabulary and make a habit of it – over time this will change your life“.
2. “Searching for the good in everything”
3. “Constructive Thinking”
4. “The ability to be thankful for everything”
5. “Thinking and talking about people as if we were in their shoes or they were here, in front of us”
6. “Trinitarian perception”
And every single one of them is created with the help of positive images of events, ourselves, other people and a positive way of putting all of that into words.
I have to say that this year I find myself thinking about words more often than ever…
Alexander Palienko talks a lot on this subject, as do various Toltecs authors.
If you take a minute and think about this, trying to summarize it, you’ll see that when we say words aloud or in the form of internal dialogue, we:
1. Always stick to a strongly established image of our lives, our world.
We could’ve gotten a completely different life if we supported it with thoughts, emotions, words and images, or even if we just loosened the grip. Plus, we force ourselves to spend tons of energy on shaping our lives with words and internal dialogue – again and again. If someone offends or criticizes us (for example, out partner, or the chief), we – over and over again – confirm and update our image of the world in which everything happens exactly that way and there is no other version of those events. When we describe to our friends how it all happens in our lives, we make ourselves hostages of that image and of our character in their eyes, and thus are forced to maintain it as well every time we meet or start a dialog with them.
2. We spend a lot of energy on the difference between what we said and what our soul feels and what we think about a person and/or event.
For example, it’s all good, but we’ll still say something like “It’s all bad, man, I’ve got no money” to somebody we think we should say that. This may be a preventive measure so that this person – God forbid – never wanted to take advantage of us because we’re doing great – it’s easier to say that we’re doing so-so.
Or, we’ll gossip about that person and tell him something entirely different when we look in his eyes. And this dissonance, this difference between our state of mind and what we say, the shaped image, also swallows a lot of energy to equalize that difference.
3. We often use words like black magic and undeservingly rarely use them consciously as white magic. We offend other people, say something bad about them that can change their lives forever.
4. We often get too attached to a particular meaning of a certain word that is established in society without thinking about our own feelings about those situations – we don’t look at it from afar so that we can understand the processes that happen “hiding” behind these words.
And today, by chance I run against one of my favorite Toltec authors – Miguel Ruiz and his book “The Four Agreements” – it’s simply awesome…
How everything intertwines into one fabric and one canvas.
And now I try to stop before I say or print something more often than before. And replace these words with other ones and don’t say what I initially wanted more often.
And the Impeccability of your word (since you pronounce it) – is a very clear and strong thought.
Let me just quote “The Four Agreements” by Miguel Ruiz real quick:
Agreement 1. Be impeccable with your word.
Being impeccable with your word is the correct use of your energy; it means to use your energy in the direction of truth and love for yourself. If you make an agreement with yourself to be impeccable with your word, just with that intention, the truth will manifest through you and clean all the emotional poison that exists within you. But making this agreement is difficult because we have learned to do precisely the opposite. We have learned to lie as a habit of our communication with others and more importantly with ourselves. We are not impeccable with the word.
The power of the word is completely misused in hell. We use the word to curse, to blame, to find guilt, to destroy. Of course, we also use it in the right way, but not too often. Mostly we use the word to spread our personal poison — to express anger, jealousy, envy, and hate.
The word is pure magic — the most powerful gift we have as humans — and we use it against ourselves. We plan revenge. We create chaos with the word. We use the word to create hate between different races, between different people, between families, between nations. We misuse the word so often, and this misuse is how we create and perpetuate the dream of hell. Misuse of the word is how we pull each other down and keep each other in a state of fear and doubt. Because the word is the magic that humans possess and misuse of the word is black magic, we are using black magic all the time without knowing that our word is magic at all.
There was a woman, for example, who was intelligent and had a very good heart. She had a daughter whom she adored and loved very much. One night she came home from a very bad day at work, tired, full of emotional tension, and with a terrible headache. She wanted peace and quiet, but her daughter was singing and jumping happily. The daughter was unaware of how her mother was feeling; she was in her own world, in her own dream. She felt so wonderful, and she was jumping and singing louder and louder, expressing her joy and her love. She was singing so loud that it made her mother’s headache even worse, and at a certain moment, the mother lost control. Angrily she looked at her beautiful little girl and said, “Shut up! You have an ugly voice. Can you just shut up!”
The truth is that the mother’s tolerance for any noise was nonexistent; it was not that the little girl’s voice was ugly. But the daughter believed what her mother said, and in that moment she made an agreement with herself. After that she no longer sang, because she believed her voice was ugly and would bother anyone who heard it. She became shy at school, and if she was asked to sing,
she refused. Even speaking to others became difficult for her. Everything changed in the little girl because of this new agreement: She believed she must repress her emotions in order to be accepted and loved.
Whenever we hear an opinion and believe it, we make an agreement, and it becomes part of our belief system. This little girl grew up, and even though she had a beautiful voice, she never sang again. She developed a whole complex from one spell. This spell was cast upon her by the one who loved her the most: her own mother. Her mother didn’t notice what she did with her word. She didn’t notice that she used black magic and put a spell on her daughter. She didn’t know the power of her word, and therefore she isn’t to blame. She did what her own mother, father, and others had done to her in many ways. They misused the word.
How many times do we do this with our own children? We give them these types of opinions and our children carry that black magic for years and years.
People who love us do black magic on us, but they don’t know what they do. That is why we must forgive them; they don’t know what they do.
These types of spells are difficult to break. The only thing that can break a spell is to make a new agreement based on truth. The truth is the most important part of being impeccable with your word. On one side of the sword are the lies which create black magic, and on the other side of the sword is the truth which has the power to break the spell of black magic. Only the truth will set us free.
Looking at everyday human interactions, imagine how many times we cast spells on each other with our word. Over time this interaction has become the worst form of black magic, and we call it gossip.
Gossip is black magic at its very worst because it is pure poison. We learned how to gossip by agreement. When we were children, we heard the adults around us gossiping all the time, openly giving their opinions about other people. They even had opinions about people they didn’t know. Emotional poison was transferred along with the opinions, and we learned this as the normal way to communicate.
For example, you are beginning a new class with a new teacher and you have looked forward to it for a long time. On the first day of class, you run into someone who took the class before, who tells you, “Oh that instructor was such a pompous jerk! He didn’t know what he was talking about, and he was a pervert too, so watch out!”
You are immediately imprinted with the word and the emotional code the person had when saying this, but what you are not aware of is his or her motivation in telling you. This person could be angry for failing the class or simply making an assumption based on fears and prejudices, but because you have learned to ingest information like a child, some part of you believes the gossip, and you go on to the class. As the teacher speaks, you feel the poison come up inside you and you don’t realize you see the teacher through the eyes of the person who gave you that gossip. Then you start talking to other people in the class about this, and they start to see the teacher in the same way: as a jerk and a pervert. You really hate the class, and soon you decide to drop out. You blame the teacher, but it is gossip that is to blame.
All of this mess can be caused by one little computer virus. One little piece of misinformation can break down communication between people, causing every person it touches to become infected and contagious to others. Imagine that every single time others gossip to you, they insert a computer virus into your mind, causing you to think a little less clearly every time. Then imagine that in an effort to clean up your own confusion and get some relief from the poison, you gossip and spread these viruses to someone else.
Now imagine this pattern going on in a never-ending chain between all the humans on earth. The result is a world full of humans who can only read information through circuits that are clogged with a poisonous, contagious virus. Once again, this poisonous virus is what the Toltecs called the mitote, the chaos of a thousand different voices all trying to talk at once in the mind.
What we don’t see is that misuse of our word is putting us deeper into hell.
For years we have received the gossip and spells from the words of others, but also from the way we use our word with ourselves. We talk to ourselves constantly and most of the time we say things like, “Oh, I look fat, I look ugly. I’m getting old, I’m losing my hair. I’m stupid, I never understand anything. I will never be good enough, and I’m never going to be perfect.”
Do you see how we use the word against ourselves? We must begin to understand what the word is and what the word does. If you understand the first agreement, be impeccable with your word, you begin to see all the changes that can happen in your life.
Changes first in the way you deal with yourself, and later in the way you deal with other people, especially those you love the most.
Impeccability of the word will also give you immunity from anyone putting a negative spell on you. You will only receive a negative idea if your mind is fertile ground for that idea. When you become impeccable with your word, your mind is no longer fertile ground for words that come from black magic. Instead, it is fertile for the words that come from love. You can measure the impeccability of your word by your level of self-love. How much you love yourself and how you feel about yourself are directly proportionate to the quality and integrity of your word. When you are impeccable with your word, you feel good; you feel happy and at peace.
Be impeccable with your word. This is the first agreement that you should make if you want to be free, if you want to be happy, if you want to transcend the level of existence that is hell. It is very powerful. Use the word in the correct way. Use the word to share your love. Use white magic, beginning with yourself. Tell yourself how wonderful you are, how great you are. Tell yourself how much you love yourself. Use the word to break all those teeny, tiny agreements that make you suffer.
Theun Mares, another toltec author also has a big chapter called “The Properties of Words” in his book “Return of the warriors”.
THE MISTAKE OF MAN IS THAT HE ALWAYS SEEKS EXPLANATIONS WHICH UPHOLD HIS WAY OF THINKING, HIS VIEW OF THE WORLD
It has been said that the universe is never ever the same again after every word spoken, and true as this is, it is even more true to say that man’s view of the world becomes ever more concretized after every word spoken.
Whenever man is faced with something new or something which he cannot grasp with his rational mind he immediately sets about describing it and explaining it with words. By the time he has finished explaining it, it fits very comfortably and securely into his view of the world. Such is the power and the trap of words.
A warrior cannot avoid the use of words, but he can avoid falling into their trap. This he does firstly by keeping his use of words down to the bare minimum, and secondly by choosing those words he does use very carefully. The warrior knows that all explanations and all descriptions are relative to his chosen frame of reference, but as all frames of reference are variables, he places no real importance upon explanations as such. For a warrior, an explanation is exactly what the word tells him it is, namely an ex-plane-tion. In order to be viewed more closely, what is being explained has quite literally been removed from its true plane, or been taken out of its true context. The moment anything is taken out of context, any information gathered about it must necessarily be impure, and in most cases downright inaccurate.
The only effective way in which to side-step the trap of words is through the practice of what is termed not-doing * . By refusing to accept words at their face value and by keeping in mind that words are mere symbols for the knowledge they veil,
it is possible to use words safely.
* The act of choosing an opposite or different course to the one which would normally have been chosen. This practice is explained
more fully in Chapter 9.
What then should man’s approach be to the use of words?
This question has already been answered to a great extent by what has been stated so far, but one further point will clarify the issue quite well.
A WARRIOR NEVER MAKES THE STUPID MISTAKE OF ASSUMING THAT THE WORLD IS ONLY WHAT WORDS WOULD SEEM TO INDICATE. A WARRIOR LIVES BY CHALLENGE, AND FOR HIM WORDS ARE NO LESS AND NO MORE THAN YET ANOTHER CHALLENGE.
In order to recognise the challenge inherent in words, the warrior must listen impeccably to their sound, their context, and most important of all, their implications. The true value of words lies in their implications rather than in the absolute values they carry by virtue of definition.
By training himself to read between the lines and to listen to the unspoken message contained within a man’s speech, the warrior begins to see.
Initially words were quite harmless, then they became the means to define a mutually acceptable view of the world, and finally they
have become the means whereby one man may dominate another, or even a whole nation of people.
The scientist sees in words his hope of being able to reduce both man and the universe to a known intellectual formula. The seer finds in words or, more accurately, in the implications inherent within them, an opportunity for expressing his awe at the astonishing mystery and scope of both man and the universe.
The difference between scientist and seer is staggering in its effects. The scientist leads man into a sterile life of ever-increasing boredom; the seer reminds man of his unlimited heritage as a magical being of an exciting and unknowable universe.
In man’s fear of the unknown he has unwittingly, but nevertheless wilfully, traded excitement for boredom, adventure for security. In this respect words are a perfect testimony to this fact. Man would much rather adhere to the absolute and known value of words than chance the unknown by questioning the validity of their face value.
The warrior, who is first and foremost a free being, and secondly an adventurer and pioneer at heart, seeks always the hidden challenge and the mystery concealed by the face value of words. In his heart of hearts he feels, senses and simply knows that every word holds hidden within it the clue to a mystery.
Therefore the warrior pays the most careful attention to words, turning them over and over in his mind, this way and that, searching out all of their possible implications. For a warrior to take words at their face value is to walk straight into the trap of ignorance and boredom – something which for him is a meaningless and stupid waste of time and energy.
After reflecting on the different examples above, it is hoped that the reader will now better be able to grasp the fact that the
warrior must, and does, approach words like any other challenge in his life. To take words for granted, or to use them in a helter-skelter fashion, is utter foolishness.
Anna Y. (author of the blog “Getting close”)
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