Self-development

7 Rules That Change Lives

Right now I’m taking one by one all the following rules and put them into action trying to make a habbit out of each of them. I’m practicing now only the Second Rule. It takes about 40 days for each. Why I pay so much attention to them? Because these are MUCH MORE important things than they seem to be from the first sight. Just believe me for now, I’ll write later about the author and my experience with him.

We shape everything that happens around us: with our feelings, our thoughts and our beliefs.

By changing ourselves we change our lives.

If our lives are rich with enough energy of love and pleasure, our desires come to life in the blink of an eye, with the number of frustrating lessons dropping to a minimum.

We all want our wishes to come true. But usually in real life our desires never get fulfilled, or, for some reason, we get the opposite of what we wanted. You who what they say – “No matter what you do, it always turns into a disaster”. The thing is, making wishes come true doesn’t have anything to do with magic and it doesn’t requires mad skills and a degree. Even if it sounds a bit crazy.

Alexander Palienko says that this is a natural and common thing. And, for us to be able to turn that “natural thing” into a habit, Alexander came up with his user-friendly “seven rules” that can help each of us get closer to the fulfillment of our dreams.

“First of all, – says Alexander, – put these rules into practice in a playful manner, relaxed and pressure-free. Our approach is the foundation on which the future will be constructed upon. If we do this with passion and excitement, the events to come will be shaped accordingly.

One more thing – don’t try to change yourself immediately: let your everyday life have only 12 percent of novelty.

That’s more than enough for you to follow these rules and, while always doing a little less than you wanted, gradually switch your subconscious to a positive “mode” and step into a new level of a harmonious and happy life, where your wishes will come true by themselves, without any effort on your part. Only you will notice that you became more conscious and do not desire from the mind anymore, but started to do that from your inner state.

 

The First Rule: “Honesty With Ourselves.”

This is the most important rule, and you need to follow it if you want to be able to get all the other ones right.

When we lie to ourselves, everything else stops working!

The ability to honestly admit to ourselves what we really feel, think and do at the moment, is the key to our growing. We must not be afraid of our negative feelings: “Yes, I’m angry right now”, “I was offended”, “I’m jealous”, “I’m super mad.”

By admitting our negative reactions, we thus delete them from our subconscious and they don’t shape our future anymore.

At the same time, it’s important to add: “I want to handle this calmly, with no fuss, without negative emotions, but I can’t right now.”

If you look at it like that, it will be easier to transform the energy of resentment, anger, rage and jealousy that we are currently experiencing into that positive state that we strive for. And you’ll get there step by step.

Thus, when we define our current state, we set ourselves free from it. You should always remember this even when talking about your success and achievements. You may have noticed that when you say “Yes, I am rich and lucky”, circumstances emerge that make you less successful.

Therefore, if you’re telling others about something positive, make sure to also mention your craziest and wildest dreams. For example: “I have a beautiful home, but I also want a comfortable cottage by the ocean”. This way, you’ll switch people’s attention to those new perspectives and allow what you already have to get stronger and become even more fundamental; as for your wishes, they will start to come true in your future.

 

The Second Rule: “The Ability To Use Positive Words.”

In order to make your life happier, better and more interesting, you need to completely change your vocabulary.

The words we speak carry a certain life experience: they bring certain feelings back that we experienced in the past. When we speak those words, we activate the neural connections that evoke strongly established images, feelings and details (information). And if we use words that carry negative information often, our subconscious that’s “tuned” to low frequencies brings negative experiences into our reality, which are then transformed into real life events that don’t bring us any joy or pleasure.

Therefore, in order to rewrite the script of events that happen to us, we need to replace the negative neural connections into the positive ones. And we do that with the help of words. For example, instead of “bad” we say “not good”, instead of “terrible” – “not great.”

This activates the positive neural structures, as the prefix “no” is not perceived by our brains, and everything that’s associated with the word “good” causes high-frequency vibrations that neutralize the negative that we are currently experiencing. All it takes is to change your vocabulary and turn it into a habit – soon your life will change as well.

 

The Third Rule: “Finding The Good In Everything.”

Our society made us this way – we are used to finding flaws in everything and judging others.

Think about what you’re talking about when you get together with your friends. As a general rule, we start expressing our disappointment and frustration with everything from our neighbors to the government and the president. And our bodies are getting “tuned” to the energy that we constantly use. After all, if you take a cigarette away from a smoker, the body will still want it because of habit, even though it’s not healthy. When we live our lives judging others, we move to the low-frequency vibrations that form negative events.

You must learn to find something positive in any situation: the weather is sunny, a bird is singing a beautiful song, that suit is sitting perfectly on that stranger…By doing this regularly, we program our subconscious mind to be positive and our minds start to snatch out positive things and events from the world around us.

The built-in ability of the subconscious to find the beauty in this world will guide you through life.

When going shopping, you will find the best shoes; when looking for a job, you’ll pick the most interesting and highly paid one, and so on. When you learn to see the positive in life, regardless of what happens, you will know that with the bad also comes the good. S.Lazarev (the author of the “Diagnostics of Karma” books) wrote a phrase: “If you feel good today, take a look at the past. Back then, when you weren’t feeling so great, your “good” was being shaped”.

 

The Fourth Rule: “Constructive Thinking”.

Make it a rule – instead of saying “It’s too bad that the rain is pouring,” say – “I want the sun to shine.”

When we deny something, we destroy the energetic connections that need our own energy to rehabilitate. Figuratively speaking, we step into the room, but the wrong music is playing. We refuse to listen to it, throw everything on the floor, break the equipment – deny everything. Then we get the room back in order, buy new equipment and play the music that we like.

Instead of that we could just say, “I want to listen to different music” – and simply change the record.

When we think like “I want it to be like this!”, and, at the same time, know what we want to experience from that, we shape the reality here and now and get what we want the easiest and the shortest way.

Therefore, learn to talk about WHAT YOU’D LIKE right from the start, ignoring everything that doesn’t bring you satisfaction. And, pay attention to the state of mind that you want to experience when that happens.

 

The Fifth Rule: “The Ability To Be Thankful For Everything: The Good And The Bad.”

By being thankful for the good, we make it stronger, and by being thankful for everything we think is bad, we transform it into something positive.

All non-positive events are low-frequency vibrations, while gratitude is a high-frequency vibration.

So, by being thankful for the bad, we do not interact with the negative and do not allow it to settle in our lives.

And if we learn to be thankful for the events that we don’t like, then over time we’ll realize that good always comes from bad. When we are not ready to take positive in (when we’re out-and-out or emotionally dependent from what we bet on), we are given the opportunity to be “cleansed”, so to speak, through minor hassle and trouble. This isn’t masochism – this way we understand that we are given a chance to realize what we did not understand before. After all, God does not have “bad” and “good”, all that comes from God has its own purpose; and it’s important for everything to be in its right place and to perform its function.

Seraphim of Sarov said that it’s good for a regular person to be sick for a year or two before death, because the soul gets purified thanks to the fact that all the claims, branding and judging from people perish, and thus, a person touches more high-frequency vibrations. And just the same we get our portion of trouble and frustration that show us where we need to change our attitude and become more successful, wealthy and happy after the changes.

 

The Sixth Rule: “Think And Talk About People As If You Were In Their Place.”

We need to learn to speak and to think about people as if they were standing right next to us, hearing us.

If we talk about others the way we would like them to talk about us, a huge amount of energy that we spend on compensating for the difference between internal opinions and external behaviors will be set free.

Our lives will become easier, because there will be a harmony between internal and external, what we think and feel and what we say and do. As a result, we will gain the ability to harmoniously interact with ourselves and with others. And that freed up energy will make it possible to better understand what we really want and bring that to life.

 

The Seventh Rule: “Trinitarian Perception.”

While the previous six rules were the basics, meaning we used them to shape our subconscious, the seventh rule can be called magical.

It starts to work when we rebuild ourselves and become one with the world around us. With the seventh rule, we will be able to control our reality and shape the events.

To do this, we must understand that our desires can go three ways:

  1. Everything Will Happen The Way We Want;
  2. Everything Will Happen The Other Way Around;
  3. Everything Will Be So Much Better

Why should we do this? The thing is, when we start to plan mentally, we release a part of our energy to bring these desires to live. If we are not ready for other possible outcomes, our energy, which is always categorical and monosemantic, will not be able to interact with all the steps of the process; it will reflect or, rather, bounce back to us in the form of depression, aggression, anger, resentment.

But if we are willing to accept both the worst and the best outcomes, then, no matter what happens (knowing – everything that happens, comes from God, all that comes from God is for our own benefit), the energy starts to interact with everything that it touches and implements your plans to the fullest.

By accepting all the possible options and outcomes, we accept the world as it is, keep the Law of Equilibrium intact, and get a great chance for our wishes and desires to come true.

Learn the Trinitarian way of thinking!

You should do this hundred times a day and treat it as a game and enjoy the process. By the way, 70% of the time is spent on the day-by-day routine. For example, when you get up in the morning and say to yourself, “I want to have some tea”, you should consider the possible course of events:

  1. I’ll go to the kitchen and make some tea,
  2. I won’t even drink water.
  3. I’ll drink very expensive and delicious tea.

Then you go and brew some tea. By practicing on simple things like that you train your subconscious to be ready for any course of events, and, thus, increase the chance of making your desires come to life.

About 20% of the time you spend on “urgent” desires: love, health, the car, the apartment, work – everything that you want to implement. Learn to look at all your desires from the Trinitarian point of view!

As for the remaining 10%, spend it on things that cannot happen, simply because they never will, but you still wish for them to come true. For example, tomorrow they’ll bring me the keys to an apartment in the fanciest district of the capital that’s worth five million dollars. I calmly accept even the worst-case scenario: I won’t have an apartment, period. Or how about an even better outcome: I’ll get an apartment in London and in Paris. Thus, you will extend the range of possibilities for yourself and be able to make a breakthrough into a new life that will be so much richer and happier. But that’s still not the most important thing for you!

The most important thing is – no matter what you do in your life, it should be fun and bring joy!

 

So, how to change reality?

First you’ll have to accept reality for what it is, and only then start taking steps towards changing it.

Next, try to imagine that they are already happening and you’re really enjoying that. Then, either send it to your foundation (somewhere where your legs end and earth begins), or switch to something else; or, simply make peace with the fact that those changes will never happen, and that’s ok and you’re thankful for what you have and you get it, but would still like to have them in your life.

By realizing that you can change anything through certain conditions (states) that we talked about before, you begin to live life to the fullest, enjoying it and turning into an observer. And if you, at the same time, get yourself to not work for the result, you’ll most definitely succeed and the changes will be fantastic.

 
Published with permission from the author – Alexander Palienko (source in Russian).

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  • Reply Ann July 26, 2016 at 4:50 am

    beautiful rules… too much to think about

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